When you find yourself in a situation with someone, who is attempting to pressure you to do something that you do not want to do, just say No. Do not concern yourself about hurting their feelings, do not worry that they will not want to see you again. In this kind of situation, worry only about your own feelings and thoughts. Do not ever allow yourself to be "talked" into doing anything that you do not want to do!!
Steps
- Make eye contact. It is important that anyone seeing the interaction understands and believes that you are serious. Take a deep breath. Do not smile! Make them take you seriously!
- Shout NO! loudly and with conviction. That should surprise the perpetrator enough to stop the current situation and give you time to explain or put distance between you.
- Maintain eye contact so they understand that you are serious and must deal with the situation.
show that you mean NO - Walk away immediately. Do not stick around to hear this person trying to convince you what he or she wanted to do was something you wanted also.
- Say NO, then GO. Unless the other person is instantly apologizing and assuring you he or she will not repeat the behavior, there is nothing left to say.
Tips
- When you say No you have to mean it. Make sure that your verbal signals are clear and precise. Never say "no" with a smile, or they will think you really are saying "yes".
- Always follow though with your convictions. If you say no, then the answer is no, and must remain no until something changes.
- For females, in romantic situations where there is no response to your loud and emphatic NO, and you can't walk away, use the open palm of your hand to hit the offender in the nose with an upward motion. Do not use a fist - an open hand is more effective. Regardless of what Hollywood would have you think, this will not kill him. It will give him a bloody (and possibly broken) nose. For males, do not resort to violence unless it is absolutely necessary or the perpetrator is stronger than you.
- Remember that even though men generally don't strike women, bad things have happened when a man feels you have "led him on" and then denied him something. He may feel humiliated and angry, and may become aggressive. Aggressive outbursts in these situations have occurred involving even extremely low-key and mellow men. If you have had to resort to physical force in order to stop a man from touching you when you have asked him to stop, it is a dangerous situation. It shows that he was already prepared to use force to get his way, and the pain may fuel his anger considerably.
- While it is taught that a man does not strike a woman, in certain dangerous situations, a man might be the one who is being assaulted and attacked. In a situation such as this, the man might have to use any means available to protect himself when saying 'no' is not enough.
- If you find you are engaged in a serious physical struggle and you fear that you will be injured seriously or raped, as odd as it seems, there are some over-the-top things you can try, which certainly couldn't hurt: try acting crazy (shouting weird, nonsensical phrases, foaming at the mouth or drooling), throwing up if you can, peeing your pants, etc. It sounds bizarre, but if you can do something disgusting, it may shut down the physical struggle and give you time to escape. All's fair in situations like this.
- Saying 'NO', and then acting coy or smiling, will only give someone the idea that you really do not want him or her to stop! Do not give mixed signals.
- Remember the rhyme. Say NO then GO. Better not to fight or argue, just leave.
- Don't worry if for some reason the person causing you to say "NO" doesn't like you anymore. They probably aren't worth your trouble anyway if they upset you to that extent.
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